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"Finding yourself" is a pop culture lie.

"Finding your passion" is a pop culture lie.

"Finding your soulmate" is a pop culture lie.


There is nothing to find, only to create.



I came across that tweet on Monday. It took a lot for me not just being able to find the motivation to write, but to find the urge to be completely honest about what is going on in my life right now as an uncertain, flawed teenage girl who knows nothing about life - or herself- yet.




In honor of that quote and this week's post, I want to correct myself from today moving forward, and I hope that you do too. Although I am not perfect and I am far from the woman I long to become, there is nothing lost about me. There is nothing that I have to find. Just because I may not know myself yet doesn't mean that I am nothing until then. I know that I'm not perfect, and that's okay with me. I have all of the ingredients that I need in order to create the best version of myself that I can possibly create. And you do too!


God created every person uniquely, so my story may not be exactly be like yours. I may not have my life together, and I may seem confused or even disoriented, but that doesn't mean that I'm not worthy of becoming or that I can't reach that point or better at some point within my life.


Like I've said in previous posts, its the experience that makes your life worth living. It's about the challenges you're presented with and how you overcome them. It's about the people you come across and the lessons you gleam from them - whether good or bad. It's about the laughs you share and the tears you shed along with the feelings that encompass them. It's about the moments you live and the memories you're creating as we speak. There's no right or wrong way to live YOUR life. It's okay if your story doesn't make sense or if it doesn't align with the trend of the people around you ... because its not supposed to. Through every journey, nothing will be perfect nor will everything make sense. The beautiful thing about life is being able to see and take things as it is, experience them, learn from them, and evolve through the midst of your confusion.


I'll never forget this quote,

"If you're going through hell, keep going. Why would you stop in hell?"

Don't rush your story or question why things are the way that they are either. Persist, endure, and enjoy your journey. Think of it this way: a REALLY good book doesn't get to the good part on page 5. It takes a few chapters, maybe even a few series of continuous ups and downs (and believe me, a GOOD book has a few good parts and a lot of bad ones). They are filled with new characters and new settings and new conflicts and new surprises all to construe one complex, breathtaking, awe-inspiring story ... like yours! Do not be afraid to take your time. Do not be afraid of failure. Do not be afraid of your potential. Stay in your lane and stay in your bag.


I'm writing this as I'm trying to get myself to believe it: you have everything that you need. Stop searching for what's wrong with you, and start to embrace everything that's right about you: all of your beautiful flaws, that no one else can flaunt like you. The moment you do that, you began to blossom into something unstoppable. You begin to stop caring about what other people think, or even if they're watching you because you now understand that God created your journey separately before you even began it. Take what you have, and do what you can. Develop and experience and create and LIVE unapologetically. You are who you are, and nothing can change that but you or God.


I'll end with this quote.


"If it's meant to happen, it will, at the right time for the right reasons."

Understand where you are in life right now. If it's not where you want to be, do not be complacent believing that it is impossible for you to grow because you can. You are worthy of whatever you believe you are capable of. It will take time, granted, but could anything ever change if you never try? Envision where you want to be, and let that fuel the fire within you.


Thank you.




SN: I hope that each and every one of you all are staying safe, healthy, and AT HOME! Continue to watch the news and keep abreast of a reliable source through all of this! Although we are social-distancing from each other, do not social-distance from God. Stay focused and awoken ... peace <3

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